Sacred vs Secular

– Dawn Neldon and Cody Vermillion

If you’ve been following on this Uncommon journey for any amount of time you know that we are in the business of reframing and reclaiming truths about life, faith, and being human. Because we are certain that there are things that we, as a culture, have believed and are believing that need to be tweaked (and some that just plain need to be thrown out).

This month we want to tackle the false dichotomy that exists in our culture between the sacred and the secular. See, we tend to give in to the belief that there are places, spaces, times, things, and people that fall into the category of “sacred.” Those might be things like church and….church…and church music….and things and people that operate in church. And in general all things church.

But the problem with this belief is that we neatly package God into the box of religious activity that happens in churches and remove Him (in our minds) from all sorts of places where God is fully present. Because God is in churches AND in businesses, doctors offices and grocery stores. He is in worship music and pop radio. He is in missionary work and the 9-5 workplace.

God is over all and through all and in all. He created everything and holds it together. Granted, we as humans have a tendency to inject our own brokenness into the good He has created. But if you really pay attention, you can find God in the ordinary things of life. From the birds chirping before your alarm, to the cup of coffee that gets your day started, to the face of the barista who made it.

Church isn’t the only place to find God. In fact, you are made in the image of God. So He is with you always. You don’t have to be at church, you don’t have to be a pastor, or missionary, or Sunday school volunteer to experience something sacred. Those things are all great! But you can live in to the sacred calling God has given you in your every day experiences.

This weekend, try looking for the ways in which God is present in the every day things of life. And on Monday, as you head to work – or as you get the kids ready for whatever you’re doing to stay sane while they’re not in school – try to find the sacred moments. The times when God shows up in the ordinary.

Then join us on July 7th to talk more about it…

SACRED [SPACE] – WINE & WORDS

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YOU ARE VALUED

YOU BELONG

What Is Worship? 🙌

– cody vermillion

This week, we have been thinking a lot about worship. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that our first worship service is only a few days away!!!

Ok, it’s definitely that.

But also because we have been thinking and praying about this day for at least a year, probably longer, and now it’s here! And as we have been planning, learning, talking, and ideating about what it will look like for Uncommon [good] to do “worship” regularly, we have come to some conclusions…

Worship is Weird

Lemme ‘splain… For some, the typical idea of corporate worship is strange. Maybe even intimidating. People coming together to sing some songs that everyone seems to know, raising hands, standing up and sitting down all together, and at the right times… I mean, to an outsider, that’s weird. *Pause* – I wanna be clear in saying that there’s nothing wrong with that way of worship. I personally do those things when I worship. And we welcome it! But we also want to make our uncommon [worship] night a place with no expectations for those who might not be familiar with the typical patterns of worship. Because…

Worship is For Everyone

We mean that in the sense that, all are welcome to worship. But also, all are created to worship. That’s right. We were made to give glory to God. Not just with singing and raising hands. But with everything we are. And God invites all His creation (even rocks) to worship Him. Regardless of where you are in your faith, you are welcome to worship. You are created to worship. But what we want to help you understand is that worship is so much more than singing songs together…

Worship is a Lifestyle

Many of us are conditioned to think worship is some event that we attend once a week. But, a weekly gathering to sing and hear someone talk was never meant to be the end-all-be-all worship experience. Each and every day we are given the opportunity to worship the One whose image we were created in. Whether through our work, as a parent, as a student, as a friend, as a human trying to muddle through the rhythms of this life… No matter where we are, or what we are doing, it can be an act of worship to God. How, you ask? Well, we’ve gotta save something to talk about at the worship night. 😉

Speaking of… are you coming?!

Rhythm: A Night of Uncommon [worship]
Sunday, October 7, 4 PM
Poway Community Center

Rediscover what worship is all about as we do “church” in an uncommon way.

13094 Civic Center Dr, Poway, CA  92064

Kids programs provided for ages 1 through 10 years old.

 

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We welcome your help to continue this uncommon [adventure]!



you are loved
you are valued
you belong

 

 

 

🍂 Fall and The Rhythm of Life

Purpose and Rhythm

– ryan james ross

I love building things.
Treehouses, doors, homes, toys… I love it all.

But this project was way more profound than mere fun — it was an answer to prayer…

The mission for Uncommon [good] is to create space in our community where people realize their need for connection with God and one another in community. The moment we got invited to help out with Poway Days, we knew that God was at work. Our job was literally to “create space for community”… And that’s what we do!!! We felt God winking at us when we got this job!

Every moment that I was creating the benches and tables for our space at Poway Days, I was talking with God. I was thanking Him for this opportunity to create good space for people, for this great way to live out our mission, and I was praying for all the people that would relax in our space. I prayed that all these strangers would feel connection, that they would experience joy, and that God would give them a taste of his love and belonging.

Being a catalyst of community at Poway Days is only a part of what we get to do through Uncommon [good] this year. There is SO MUCH ahead — and there’s a great rhythm to it all as we jump into Fall.

So, let’s talk rhythm…

We are excited to announce that Uncommon [good] will find a WEEKLY spiritual rhythm in the fall. That’s right folks – every Sunday afternoon there will be an opportunity for you to connect with this Uncommon [community]

You all know that we have been on a journey to reimagine church for a new generation. Not because we just like doing things differently – or for the sake of novelty – but because if we are going to reach the ever growing MAJORTIY of people who want nothing to do with church – then we have to try something new. And so we have studied, talked, dreamed, and prayed our way into what we are calling a new spiritual rhythm:

October 7 –  Uncommon [worship] Night 
A monthly opportunity for corporate worship – in both familiar and uncommon ways.

October 14Wine & Words
A monthly version of the crowd favorite! We will continue to reframe and reclaim truths about life, faith and being human!

October 21 – Common Table
A monthly family style small group gathering – centered around the good old fashioned art of eating and conversing. Join a Common Table group to take part in the rhythm of deep, intentional relationships. This is where you dive deep into the things of life and faith.

October 28 – Taste of Community
We will continue to create gifts of community for the community. We call it the sacrament of party! A chance to invite friends and neighbors to gather together – a place where people can belong before they believe.

Help Make It Happen…

We cannot wait to make this weekly spiritual rhythm a reality.
But we need your help!

You heard two weeks ago that we are now an official – all grown up – non-profit! Well, now is the time to give so we can continue make Uncommon [good] a reality. We would love for you to consider setting up recurring giving or perhaps sponsoring one of the following events:

Wine & Words – $500
Worship night – $1,500

Taste of Community – $2,500
One Staff Salary for a month – $3,000

This Uncommon [journey] has been a joy and an adventure. Together we’ve done exciting things – and there’s more on the horizon! Push the button below and let’s continue to lean into the adventure God has for us!

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We have plans for growth, business, and financial sustainability. Please shoot us an email if you’d like to meet up and hear our vision for the future — it’s big, and it’s very [good].

 

you are loved
you are valued
you belong

 

 

Togetherness is Better-ness

better together

– cody vermillion

So, I know we say this a lot, but we at uncommon [good] believe deep in our bones that gathering in community is one of the best ways to experience the love, power, and presence of God. That’s why we are so crazy about community. And really, this is nothing new. Since the beginning, the movement we call Christianity wasn’t meant to be a solo mission.

Let me paint you a picture of the early Church found in Acts Chapter 2. In those days, followers of Jesus were getting together ALL THE TIME. Like every day. They were doing crazy, counter-cultural stuff like, loving their enemies, selling possessions to meet needs in the community, and breaking bread together with “glad and sincere hearts.” And through that, this movement grew at an insane rate. #SquadGoals, right?

And why did this movement take off the way it did? [Besides the power of God at work, of course]. Because, the world around them looked in and saw something uncommon… A community that loved each other, and embraced anyone and everyone. This, by the way, is exactly what Jesus predicted when He gave the command, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” – John 13:34-35.

That! That is why we are so hyped on community. That is why we party together. That is why, ultimately, we want to create space FOR community. And that is also why we want to invite you to join an Uncommon Small Group…

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the starting point

Small groups start NEXT WEEK! Woohoo!!

And it’s not too late to join…

For our first small group season, we will be going through a series called Starting Point from Andy Stanley discussing the “starting points” of faith.

Imagine that 😉

Here’s a little descriptor from their materials to get you excited:

Everything has a beginning. Every person, every idea, every journey starts somewhere. Whether it’s one small step in a new direction or a major event, from that point forward nothing is ever the same.

It’s not always comfortable. It’s not always easy. But it’s a start.

Excited yet?
Cause we are!

And if that’s not enough to get you pumped, check out this vid from Ryan and Dawn…

WATCH THIS

 

the schedule

Uncommon small groups are gonna be… uncommon. They will be on Wednesday nights (unless there’s a group that needs to meet on another night) and there is going to be a rhythm to the six weeks that will seem new to some. But we think it will especially allow families to get the most out of the content without breaking the bank with baby-sitters every week.

Check this sched…

May 23rd – Families all together

May 30th – Couples (you’ll need a sitter for this week)

June 6th – Just the Dudes

June 13th – Just the Gals

June 20th – Couples (will need sitter)

June 27th – Families all together/Wednesdays at the Park launch

Cool huh? You’ll see more about this in the coming weeks. But if you’re interested in small groups, NOW is the time to sign up. Just clickety-click the button below to sign up!

JOIN A SMALL GROUP

 

wine & words

We’re so excited to invite you to the next adventure with uncommon [good]… A night of wine & words called:

you have heard it said…
[reclaiming] truths about faith, Jesus, and being Human.
June 3rd, 6:30 PM

We have been feeling God speaking in huge ways to us as we prepare for this event. It is going to be a [good] time of community and conversation that will go very nicely with your wine and charcuterie!

 

RSVP here and we’ll see you there!

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YOU ARE LOVED!

 

 

Hospitality and The Office

the hospitality

– ryan james ross

Have you ever been invited into a space that overwhelmed you with gratitude and awe?

Like being invited into a group or party that made you think,

“Who am I that I get to be here?”

“Who am I that I get to be with these people?”

I remember a time recently where Rachel and I got invited to a party with these friends that we really loved and admired. The invite to spend time with them and their family in their home meant the world to us. To share life with them moved us from admiring fans to real friends; people that do life together. Rachel and I felt like, “Who are we that they would like us?!” Yes, even though that sounds like middle school social dynamics stuff, let’s be honest… even as adults we feel like that sometimes!

I remember the first time I got invited to go to Ken and Margie Blanchard’s house. I had read Ken’s books. I was shaped by his lessons in leadership. I had heard him speak in front of huge audiences and I had even heard other famous people talk about Ken and Margie Blanchard. I was in awe when I sat in their living room and found myself eating and drinking with them like a friend — like family.

I remember this one day, sitting with Ken Blanchard and Dawn Neldon, and Ken asks us to review his sermon writing and give any suggestions to make it better! Yes, you can laugh…us review his writing. Dawn and I looked at each other and audibly said, “Who are we that we get invited into this space?!”

This “inviting others in close” is also called hospitality, and it is a mark of divine community.

The study of hospitality throughout the books of the Bible is fascinating. There are so many passages that teach the ethos of inviting others in close, taking care of them, and creating community. Try a google search on verses about hospitality, and you’ll get a great list to read through. A list that will reveal the God of hospitality throughout the old and new testaments. Let’s just hit a few great passages here.

From the very beginning, as God was laying out life principles for his people in the book of Leviticus, He charges His people to invite strangers and foreigners in close:

“Treat them [the stranger among you] as if they were your own, and love them as you love yourself. Remember that you were once foreigners living in the land of Egypt. I am the Lord your God.”  ~ Leviticus 19:34

Obedience to this principle of radical hospitality would’ve created a very diverse and loving community made up of all kinds of racial and religious backgrounds. Imagine living this out in a time where racism, division, and judgment of the other was rampant. But that was back then, right? [smirk]

Centuries later, the Son of God comes on the scene and models what a life of hospitality and love looks like on the streets — and it shocked the religious elite. Jesus created community with everybody, and in a time where righteousness was evidenced by what you ate and who you ate with (or more like what you wouldn’t eat and who you wouldn’t eat with), Jesus’ kind of hospitality actually looked totally irreverent.

Jesus even says of Himself that he modeled a life of eating and drinking with everybody. And people called him a glutton and drunkard because of it.

“The Son of Man comes eating and drinking, and you say, ‘He’s a glutton and a drunkard, and a friend of tax collectors and other sinners!’ But wisdom is shown to be right by its results.”  ~ Matthew 11:19

Jesus created community parties wherever he went, and the wisdom that was revealed in this was that people felt comfortable with him, they built relationships with Jesus, and by this He was able to speak into their lives and give them the good news of who He was.

So, the early Christians in the first century began to follow Jesus’ way and they continued to invite everyone into the God family. The community of hospitality grew and challenged some deeply held misunderstandings of who God would invite into His family – who was worthy to sit at the table.

Acts 10 contains an incredible story of God giving Peter a vision that made Peter stop judging people as pure or impure, clean or unclean. It drove Peter into community with Cornelius — they entered a home together and ate and drank just like Jesus did, and it changed the life of Cornelius and Peter alike. That moment launched the early church into being a people known for hospitality to the other once again, and it should be a characteristic of Jesus community to this very day.

Is it?

I think God puts people on our hearts all the time. People that He wants us to reach out to, strangers that He wants us befriend. Who could you invite in close this next week? Is there someone that you could create a party with, have over for dinner, go do something with?

Is there someone outside that you know would like to be invited in?

This “inviting others in close” is called hospitality, and it is a mark of divine community.

I got the opportunity to talk about some of this on a podcast with our good friends over at Orchard Community Church.

You can listen to that here: How to Find and Build Community

And now…

the office [not dunder mifflin]

We’ve got office… and what a story of Jesus-like hospitality.

Our team has been searching for a spot where we can meet, use wifi, and get stuff done throughout the week [starbucks was getting real old]. We’d put out a few feelers and just this weekend, we got word that our friends over at The Church at RB have a space for us!

This last weekend Nate and Ian [CRB staff] opened the door to a room and said, “will this be alright for you?” We walked in and saw an incredible space, nicer than any office we’ve ever had before.

It’s beautiful… and they’re asking if it will be OK for us? Ha!!!!

Yes, I believe it will suffice. : )

Once again, I was left feeling “who are we that we would be invited into this space?”

I know that people around Jesus felt that way all the time, and so, as Jesus followers, may we all continue to invite others in to share life with, foster community, and live out the hospitality that comes from our loving God. That kind of love saves the world.

the unicorns [again]

We wanted to remind you of our upcoming talk on parenting for moms of young kids. Uncommoners, Dawn Neldon and Maren Nelson are hosting Raising Unicorns at Maren’s house in Poway, March 27th, @ 9:30 – 11 AM

Join us for mimosas and mom-spiration as Dawn shares about growing kids who stand out in a world that tells them to fit in.

There’s still space left [for now] – click the red button to register!

Register for Unicorns

You are loved and valued.
Thank you and God Bless!

 

Weekly Update 1-26-2018

You ought to listen to some Gospel today…

This last week I had a friend with a birthday that didn’t want any happy birthday wishes.

Due to tragedy and loss in her family, she wasn’t exactly feeling like being flooded with happy wishes in a time when life felt anything but happy.

So she asked for something different.

In lieu of ‘happy birthdays’, my friend asked people to leave a note of a memory they had with her, or to just simply share what my friend meant to them. Messages came flooding in — all kinds of memories from friends and family about moments in their lives and lots of statements about who my friend was – kind, courageous, loyal, loving, and the list went on.

In a time of sadness, my friend wanted to be reminded of who she was and what she meant to others. My friend needed some Gospel.

Real Gospel (the good news about Jesus) gives us two gifts:

It shows us who God is and it reminds us of who we are.

Gospel says that we, despite our circumstances, feelings and imperfections, are lovingly and purposefully made by God, fully known by God and still loved deeply. The gospel is that we are so loved that Jesus gave up His life for us so that we can have life with Him — and know a life of forgiveness and freedom. Listening to a little gospel reminds us that we are children of God as we walk through days that are good, bad, or sometimes straight up ugly.

There is a common phrase in faithful circles that “we must preach the gospel to ourselves everyday”. What does that mean? Everyday we need to hear about how God sees us over how we or anyone else may see ourselves. We are loved. We are valuable. We are worth dying for. And the God of the universe did just that very thing for us so that we may have life.

Maybe you really needed to hear this today.

The gospel about God’s love and about who we are in His eyes changes us.
It will change every interaction we have throughout the day.

Try starting the morning with a little bit of that gospel in your ears.

 

 

You’re gonna love this…

Last week we invited you to join us on a journey of Spiritual formation – which is a fancy, (and perhaps intimidating) way of saying taking time to practice the things that Jesus taught.

Our Uncommon [team] is reading The Good and Beautiful God. which is a quick and practical guide through some great devotional thoughts. And it’s accompanied with practical things we can do every day to actually practice the things that Jesus taught!

Whether you’ve jumped in this week or not, we want to invite you to join in the first week’s practice with us – wait ’til you hear what it is – you will probably run out and buy the book immediately (can you even do that anymore? Are bookstores still a thing?)

Drum roll, please… The first spiritual practice is… REST! You didn’t read that wrong. REST is actually considered a spiritual practice (thank you sweet Jesus!) Did you ever consider that God (the all-powerful, world-sustaining-being) modeled resting! The same God that also designed our bodies to spend 1/3 of our lives asleep. Yet rest is the first thing we ignore when life gets busy. More than that – we often feel guilty or lazy for getting rest when the to do list is never ending!

But the truth is we can’t operate at our best, live life at our optimum, or focus on any other spiritual practices well if we are haggard and tired. So – here’s the challenge: spend time intentionally resting this week – it’s kind of like a choose your own adventure situation, so pick one of the following:

1. Choose one day this week and sleep until you can’t sleep anymore! Don’t feel bad about it either!

2. Get at least 7 hours of sleep for 3 days in a row. Set an alarm to get in bed not just one to wake yourself up!

3. Take a nap. Maybe you can’t sleep in (cause, hello! small children) and maybe your week is crazy and you simply can’t get 7 hours for multiple nights in a row. That’s okay! Find a window of time one afternoon and instead of doing the dishes, take a nap! WOOHOO for Spiritual Formation (#amiright?)

Let us know how this challenge goes or you! Chime in on our Instagram to share your adventures in REST.

You are loved and valued.
Worthy of the Savior giving His life for you, in fact!

God Bless our uncommon [community]

 

 

Four Quirky Friends Seeking Uncommon [space] For Cool Jesus Stuff…

We found ourselves peering into several buildings this last week — in the least creepy way possible, of course — We’re looking for the future space of Uncommon [good]!

Somewhere in Poway Unified School District we know that God has a place for us… we just have to identify it and move forward.

We need a large place with lots of parking and great outdoor space as well. The zoning has to be right for events and retail (ie. coffee, food, music, beverages, etc.) and more.

We’d love it to look like a beautiful barn – but we hold our ideas and dreams with open hands and plan for flexibility : ) Keep your eyes open with us!

We have began to build a team of architects, designers, and real estate friends that will make this Uncommon [space] a reality! Maybe you could be key to this team if you have experience in commercial real estate, building, LLC incorporation, etc. Is this you? CLICK HERE

If you’re not clear on what that vision is exactly, check out our website to get an idea of what we’re talking about.

When we’re not looking at buildings and meeting with development teams, we’re working everyday with Gateway Leadership Initiative. They help people like us make visions a reality and will take us from zero to the launch of a successful, long lasting ministry through support and in depth training. We have an overwhelming amount of good work to do with them every day – ranging from demographic studies, forming bylaws, 501(c)3 incorporation, and yes, even spiritual development so we keep Jesus at the forefront of everything in our planning!

This Uncommon [dream] is huge.

It’s God-sized for sure.

We encourage you to pray for Uncommon [good] and that God would use us ALL to bring it into being as we move forward into this new Spirit driven vision of ‘church’ in our community!